Accepting Homosexuality- The Paradox!!

I walked out of my house with a wallet in my one hand and a broken mobile in another (must get this phone repaired soon). Just to get rid of my mom’s angry words for not helping her in work (I guess it’s every girl’s gloomy story), I preferred inhaling the fresh air (doubtful about its freshness though). Lost in the jungle of my thoughts, of how impatient I have become, my eyes caught hold of a couple (don’t know if it’s the ‘perfect’ word used). The girl, with appealing eyes, was laughing with a slight dimple on her left cheek; and her counterpart, the other ‘girl’ was innocently watching her giggling. Seems innocuous! Looks simple! BUT, is it?

“Ooo…they are lesbians”; “OMG! She has a girl friend”; “this is illegal in India!” etc. These are some of the initial remarks that strike most of our ‘intellectual’ heads. Since the de-criminalization homosexuality in India, there has been a vibrant debate about the validity of this contemplation. Despite the Court reforms, homophobia (fear of or contempt for lesbians and gay men) still persist in the nation. Many cultural organizations categorize homosexuality as a western/foreign import and deny its existence. To them it is alien to Indian culture, and looked upon as a corrupting influence that needs to be curbed. The irony here is that homosexuality is not something the West has taught us; the West taught us how to criminalize this very concept. The fact that we are unaware of is- that homosexuality has a reference in our religious texts. Ancient Hindu scriptures, such as Rig Veda make clear mention to sexual acts between women. Further the carvings and depictions in the famous temples of Khajuraho, Konark, Puri are proof of the same.

The next debate that has turned the clock is whether gay marriage should be allowed in our country or not?

No doubt that in the past 50 years, social life has been under continuous change with the introduction and propagation of globalization. ‘Gay (same sex) marriages’–is one of those topics which has come up often for discussion and India is no exception to this. A recent State of the Nation CNN-IBN survey revealed that as many as 73% Indians feel homosexuality should be considered illegal while 83% felt that homosexuality is not part of Indian culture.

Yes, ours is a traditional nation, with morals and values. Yes, marriage is considered as a very pure ritual on our land. Yes, sexual intimacy between a female and a male is a convention among our people

But I fail to understand, why can’t we have a revolution— in terms of changing our conventions? Don’t we have a freedom to make a choice? Is it ethical or moral when taking away from someone the right of choosing a life partner? Why in our country, LGBTs (Lesbian, gay, Bisexual and Trans-sexual) are seen with an “Oh, my God!” kind of outlook? Why is our country so critical of homosexuality that it dismisses even the slightest hint in this direction with an embarrassed yet stern approach?

Is it not time for our country to stop trying to control what two consenting adults may do behind closed doors? Is it not time for our country to come out of its cocoon of misconception and realize that as much as they hope for it, the gay and lesbian community in our country isn’t going anywhere; they will remain here and keep demanding their rights until they get it? For our Country to accept certain norms and shun others is quite hypocritical. While the whole world has started recognizing and respecting homosexuals and granting them all legal rights due in today’s era to any human being, our Country treats consensual adult love between people of the same sex as sodomy, and refuses to grant same sex relationships the sanctity that is due to them.

The universal law of Human Rights states that social norms, tradition, custom or culture cannot be used to curb a person from asserting his fundamental and constitutional rights.

The gay relationship can be legalized through marriage which will prevent the cases of illegitimate secret relations. Marriage not only gives to people the right to co-habit but also gives them rights as far as issues like property, inheritance, maintenance, adoption, pension, insurance, employee benefits etc., are concerned. Another point is of respect. A satisfactory personal life is as much a right of gay couples as straight couples.

There is no cure to a darkness that refuses the light of the day. It’s high time that we come out of the closet of our pre-defined notions, and think rationally!

Hmm…While I got lost in my thoughts, I can still see the love birds chatting! Taking departure from staring them since a ‘very’ long time, I better be going back home now and lend a hand to my mother (perhaps she might give me an extra dollar for my pocket money! *wink*)


About Ashima Dua

pursuing Business Economics Hons. at Gargi college, Delhi University, I have a passion for writing-be it poems, prose or articles! Penning down my thoughts is the best way of self-expression! love to dance and read novels!

Posted on September 11, 2011, in Social Issues and tagged , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 3 Comments.

  1. Exceptionally thought provoking article , the only point that i want to make here is that , adoption of homosexuals in society is not an easy thing to do in India , It is a matter of social engineering at the moment , after the intervention of the Hon,ble supreme court in the matter . It is at least not a taboo anymore , in the cities like Mumbai , which forms majority of intellectual and liberal hub in India , a lot is happening in terms of admitting their rights , it is all about understanding the emotional feelings of homosexuals , and for doing that a reasonable and rationale thought process is required , which generally is not possible in India at the moment , education has not reached its zenith at the moment ….

  2. i totally agree to your point ankur! true, that the role of education is really important.. but the awareness has to start from somewhere! and it must take up a pace! it’s high time!

    thanks for reading 🙂

  3. Hi Ashima, we r still in 19th century, although sex is a natural desire, according to once attitude and environment in which he is living but still a big taboo. Rajnish tried to comeover it, but could not suceed too much but now so many techniques and openess in society will help a lot. Initially i used to enjoy homosexuality but now i am working in a export house where out of 11, 9 are women , 7 is alredy married instead of that i have physical realtion with 3 of them, 2 r married one is unmarried but even she was not virgin. They also realised some times they play themselves.One must realised it is daily need so let the people fulfill it on their own way. Muslim society has realised this fact 1500 years ago they allowed full sexual reation with 4 partner with compulsion physical relation. Western society is so advance they enjoy with animals also. Dogs and cats are their pet animal this is one of the reason.Let us allow people to breathe properly.

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