Accepting Homosexuality- The Paradox!!
Posted by Ashima Dua
I walked out of my house with a wallet in my one hand and a broken mobile in another (must get this phone repaired soon). Just to get rid of my mom’s angry words for not helping her in work (I guess it’s every girl’s gloomy story), I preferred inhaling the fresh air (doubtful about its freshness though). Lost in the jungle of my thoughts, of how impatient I have become, my eyes caught hold of a couple (don’t know if it’s the ‘perfect’ word used). The girl, with appealing eyes, was laughing with a slight dimple on her left cheek; and her counterpart, the other ‘girl’ was innocently watching her giggling. Seems innocuous! Looks simple! BUT, is it?
“Ooo…they are lesbians”; “OMG! She has a girl friend”; “this is illegal in India!” etc. These are some of the initial remarks that strike most of our ‘intellectual’ heads. Since the de-criminalization homosexuality in India, there has been a vibrant debate about the validity of this contemplation. Despite the Court reforms, homophobia (fear of or contempt for lesbians and gay men) still persist in the nation. Many cultural organizations categorize homosexuality as a western/foreign import and deny its existence. To them it is alien to Indian culture, and looked upon as a corrupting influence that needs to be curbed. The irony here is that homosexuality is not something the West has taught us; the West taught us how to criminalize this very concept. The fact that we are unaware of is- that homosexuality has a reference in our religious texts. Ancient Hindu scriptures, such as Rig Veda make clear mention to sexual acts between women. Further the carvings and depictions in the famous temples of Khajuraho, Konark, Puri are proof of the same.
The next debate that has turned the clock is whether gay marriage should be allowed in our country or not?
No doubt that in the past 50 years, social life has been under continuous change with the introduction and propagation of globalization. ‘Gay (same sex) marriages’–is one of those topics which has come up often for discussion and India is no exception to this. A recent State of the Nation CNN-IBN survey revealed that as many as 73% Indians feel homosexuality should be considered illegal while 83% felt that homosexuality is not part of Indian culture.
Yes, ours is a traditional nation, with morals and values. Yes, marriage is considered as a very pure ritual on our land. Yes, sexual intimacy between a female and a male is a convention among our people
But I fail to understand, why can’t we have a revolution— in terms of changing our conventions? Don’t we have a freedom to make a choice? Is it ethical or moral when taking away from someone the right of choosing a life partner? Why in our country, LGBTs (Lesbian, gay, Bisexual and Trans-sexual) are seen with an “Oh, my God!” kind of outlook? Why is our country so critical of homosexuality that it dismisses even the slightest hint in this direction with an embarrassed yet stern approach?
Is it not time for our country to stop trying to control what two consenting adults may do behind closed doors? Is it not time for our country to come out of its cocoon of misconception and realize that as much as they hope for it, the gay and lesbian community in our country isn’t going anywhere; they will remain here and keep demanding their rights until they get it? For our Country to accept certain norms and shun others is quite hypocritical. While the whole world has started recognizing and respecting homosexuals and granting them all legal rights due in today’s era to any human being, our Country treats consensual adult love between people of the same sex as sodomy, and refuses to grant same sex relationships the sanctity that is due to them.
The universal law of Human Rights states that social norms, tradition, custom or culture cannot be used to curb a person from asserting his fundamental and constitutional rights.
The gay relationship can be legalized through marriage which will prevent the cases of illegitimate secret relations. Marriage not only gives to people the right to co-habit but also gives them rights as far as issues like property, inheritance, maintenance, adoption, pension, insurance, employee benefits etc., are concerned. Another point is of respect. A satisfactory personal life is as much a right of gay couples as straight couples.
There is no cure to a darkness that refuses the light of the day. It’s high time that we come out of the closet of our pre-defined notions, and think rationally!
Hmm…While I got lost in my thoughts, I can still see the love birds chatting! Taking departure from staring them since a ‘very’ long time, I better be going back home now and lend a hand to my mother (perhaps she might give me an extra dollar for my pocket money! *wink*)
About Ashima Duapursuing Business Economics Hons. at Gargi college, Delhi University, I have a passion for writing-be it poems, prose or articles! Penning down my thoughts is the best way of self-expression! love to dance and read novels!
Posted on September 11, 2011, in Social Issues and tagged CNN-IBN, Coming out, Culture of India, Gay Lesbian and Bisexual, Human rights, LGBT, Rigveda, United States. Bookmark the permalink. 3 Comments.